Rearranging the Furniture of Our Lives
Change is inevitable. Whether you’re an entrepreneur navigating ADHD, a parent juggling midlife transitions, or simply a human being growing through life — change comes knocking. But what if we could look at change the same way we look at rearranging furniture in our homes? It’s not about overhauling everything. It’s about working with what we already have and cultivating and ADHD entrepreneur mindset.
The Furniture We Carry: Memories, Skills, Relationships
Our lives are collections. Over the years, we gather memories, talents, relationships, dreams, even habits — just like we accumulate furniture. And just like a well-loved couch or a kitchen table full of history, not everything we’ve collected needs to be thrown out when it’s time for a shift. Yet, as someone living with ADHD — and as a mom deep in the waves of perimenopause — I’ve learned that even small changes can feel like tectonic shifts. Full transparency? I used to freak out at the mere thought of rearranging actual furniture. (I still do sometimes.) Growing up, my mom rearranged our living room constantly. Okay, maybe not every month, but enough that it felt like the ground under me kept moving. Even in my twenties, when I moved back home after college, it disoriented me. I craved certainty. Routine. Familiarity. For my ADHD brain, sameness meant safety.
When Change Triggers the ADHD Brain
Fast forward to the pandemic. Our house became a canvas — we let the kids paint murals on the walls and gave creativity free rein. But when my 11-year-old proposed swapping our TV room with the dining room (complete with fireplace), my nervous system slammed on the brakes.
NOPE. Hard no! I felt the resistance rise like a wave in my chest. My mind couldn’t even imagine the possibility — it felt too big, too much.
But here’s the twist: my veto was overruled. My family made the swap without me, while I hid in my room, dysregulated and overwhelmed. And you know what?
The change was brilliant. Cozy. Functional. Warmer. Better in every way.
The Real Reason Change Feels So Hard
What I’ve learned — and what I continue to teach my clients navigating ADHD and life transitions — is this:
The fear isn’t about the change itself. It’s about the process to get there.
For those of us with ADHD, the steps of transformation can feel overwhelming.
• We lose steam in the middle.
• We get bored.
• We forget the end goal.
• We internalize disappointments when things don’t pan out.
Over time, all those small letdowns stack up and create a narrative: “I can’t follow through. I’ll never finish this. I’ll drop the ball again.”
That narrative can make us rigid, unwilling to explore new possibilities — whether it’s rearranging furniture, shifting systems in our business, or tweaking daily habits.
Rearranging, Not Renovating: A New Mindset for ADHD Entrepreneurs
Here’s what I remind myself (and my clients) today:
You don’t need a full renovation to optimize your life.
You already have everything you need. You just need to rearrange a few things.
We’re whole and complete — lacking nothing. Change doesn’t have to mean scrapping it all and starting from scratch. Sometimes, it’s just about moving things around to function a little better. When we shift with intention — from a place of wholeness — the process feels less daunting and more doable.
Here’s how I approach it now (and how you can, too):
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Start Small
Tweak one habit. Adjust one system. You don’t have to overhaul your whole life in one weekend. -
Envision Before You Act
Before diving into change, give yourself time to imagine the possibilities. Picture what’s on the other side. -
Ask for Support
Change is easier when we’re not doing it alone. Lean on trusted friends, family, or a coach who understands how ADHD impacts transitions. -
Work With Your Nervous System
Notice when your body resists. Pause. Breathe. Remind yourself: We are safe. We can do this one step at a time. -
Celebrate What You’ve Already Built
Your internal “house” is already full — of wins, strengths, accomplishments. You’ve made it this far. That matters.
Final Thoughts: Change Is Inevitable — And Doable
Whether you’re an entrepreneur with ADHD adjusting your systems, a mom navigating perimenopause, or simply a human trying to grow — rearranging the furniture of your life doesn’t have to feel like a full demolition.
Change gets easier when we simplify, slow down, and remember:
We are enough. Our “furniture” is enough. Sometimes, it just takes moving a few pieces to unlock new possibilities. This is how you can practice an ADHD entrepreneur mindset.
Looking for support as you navigate ADHD, entrepreneurship, or life transitions?
I’m Kasey Corsello — an integrative coach specializing in helping entrepreneurs and professionals with ADHD build sustainable systems for real life.
Let’s rearrange your “furniture” together, with curiosity and compassion.